A great motto to live by. A motto I often refer to but don’t realize how much I use until I stop to reflect. Just yesterday, this time tested theory came to the rescue.
In the middle of disagreement with my spouse, I had the foresight to ask myself some important questions:
1. What do I stand to gain if I compromise?
2. What do i stand to lose if I don’t compromise?
3. Is happiness in my relationship more important that this issue to me?
What could have easily been a two or three day argument with lasting repercussions ended about an hour after it started. Do I still think I was right in my position in the argument? I do. Would holding out and potentially proving my point feel good in the long run? Most likely. Do I resent giving in and compromising? No. Will I hold on to resentment for making peace? No, I forgive and accept that two people may not alway think alike, but love is a stronger force.
I took the high road. Next time, I may do so again. Or next time, it may be more important for me to stand my ground. Who knows? What I do know is that yesterday I chose not to battle and today I am glad I did.
Challenge yourself to sit with your feelings so you can learn to minimize your internal drama. When you work on releasing your anxious energy, you’ll be able to explore what relationships can look and feel like with out it.
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